kalau sayang jangan marah

Meskipun sudah berkali-kali menasehati diri untuk lebih bersabar menghadapi anak-anak, ternyata aku belum berhasil juga…hiks! Ketika dalam kondisi capek, keributan2 kecil yang mereka ciptakan seringkali membuatku mengingkari janji, dan aku marah. Tapi hari ini aku mendapatkan satu pelajaran yang berharga dari anakku. Melihat aku marah dengan polosnya dia bertanya, “Mama sayang sama Albi? sayang dede’ juga?” “Iya dong, mama sayang…” , jawabku. Sambil berlalu dia menyahut, “kalo sayang, jangan marah dong ma”! Duhh…mendengar kata2nya emosiku mendadak meredam, rasanya seperti bangun dari mimpi. Bagiku ini adalah sebuah pesan berharga yang disampaikan oleh Allah melalui mulut kecilnya. Lucu juga mengingatnya…

yang tersayang...

Ah..nasehat memang tidak selalu kita dapatkan dari orang yang lebih tua. Tanpa kita sadari, anak2 seringkali menyimpan kata-kata bijak yang dapat kita jadikan renungan. Isyarat2 kebaikan itu ada kok disekeliling kita, tinggal kita mampu atau tidak membuka hati untuk dapat menerimanya. Let’s compete to do the good deeds…

how to say "don'ts" to kids?

Kids are full of miracles and surprises! They are innocent, cute and mostly unpredictable in their actions…J They may suddenly cry hard or laugh happily for simple things…but they are always entertaining and amusing. Really!
In their first years or we called it the golden ages, they absorb and learn everything around their life; actions, languages, music, etc with quite fast or even faster and stronger than what we ever think. Just to take an example; my little boy who is still 3,5 years old, has memorized most of today’s single hits and some advertisements on television show which –I think- is not really good for him….wups, how come?? This only one example how the electronic media comes with negative effects on our children. And honestly, I have a big task on handling it now….(share me if u don’t mind….!) But some friends of mine say that it doesn’t mean negative “at all”---> they say, “if your boy has musical attractiveness, means that he has a good emotional control, cos his left brain works as it should be, so no more worries, just guide and do a balance such as introducing them good songs which is more suitable to their ages” Ooooh, hope so! ! And I see that he could recite and memorize some short surah of Al-Qur’an as well as he sings those songs…hhmmm…oh my!! J
Psychologists say,” try not to say “don’ts” to kids, and just let them grow as they are, exploring their surroundings naturally” ……it’s not easy, oh yes, because parents specially moms (who are enough tired doing home-things) sometimes have no more patience and time to say “please….” (language of guiding) to their kids. And “don’ts” is practically easy to avoid them doing negative or danger actions as well….(it happen to me anyway!...:p)
How hard and how difficult it could be, but educating our children is a great responsible in our life….let’s just give them our best, then we would never regret…

don't be naughty!

Today morning, when I still enjoy my lazy time with my blanket, my little boy is innocently starring at me and say, "Mama I want to tell u something, give me ur ear please..."! Ahai, my boy is playing with the secret now...right when I get close to him, he straightly whispers me some words, "Mama, please don't be naughty today, okay...? just be sweet and lovable!" Oh my dear....!! I even don't know what on his mind when telling me this "warning"...he seems so serious...:))
But yes, we sometimes did not realize that wise words are often being told by our children. What they say is simply what they feel in their hearts. Children are sincere, innocent and brainy in their own unique way. So as parents, we essentially have a task to guide them, not to bound them in our propensities and ambitions. Just let them grow and flow with their life...they do need a space to express their potentials naturally.
My dear boy, thanks for teaching me about something! All what I do is merely the way I express my love to you...I promise not to be naughty honey..not only today, but all along....:)

something about kids

I still remember when I was child I’d like to follow everything which my big brothers did…n now these resembles on my little kids. My three year old boy likes to act as his father while his little sister whom is still 1,5 year old tends to be like her brother. Kids are always follow after us, our deeds remain in their mind. In this case, our consideration on giving them good examples n being such kind figures is a must! We should make sure that they have their rights as children to be affected, cared and educated as well.
As time goes by, they will grow up and we may see that they begin to make us proud or be rude at times. And herewith our patience and sincerity are examined. Kids are our never-ending wealth….do give them everything and never hope it back! No matter what they could be…only one thing we have to realize that every kids have their own goodness and weakness, it’s us who should guide them to d best way they might be…
It’s not an easy thing…but I hope I could…